Phil`s work is grounded, insightful and compassionate. He has many tools that will help you achieve a centered and fulfilling life.
I asked a female patient of mine ‘ if she was ready to do the deeper trauma work” She said ” I don’t think i’ll ever be ready but lets do it anyway.” it takes courage to be with those old wounds and there are many benefits. After our session which went beautifully she reported better sleep, more relaxed emotionally and physically. In psychology we say more embodied. More really here on the planet. we celebrated her taking that big step into deeper self awareness and healing.
I’ve been seeing Phil on and off for years and he has helped me immensely with the break-up of a multi-year relationship, one divorce, and some very difficult times during the years of that marriage. Over this time. he has helped me come to realize that I had been the classic “Nice Guy” for most of my life, doing everything I could for others without taking time for myself and getting my needs met. Phil is very caring, perceptive, supportive, non-judging, and has many therapuetic techniques and the expertise to help.
I experienced profound healing via a process called Constellation Work, led my our friend, the gifted therapist Phil Cerdorian. To reconnect with the strong female line on my mother’s side through this healing work felt like something was restored to me, something that had been missing. In my mother’s family there had been both scapegoating and a tendency for women to be passive-aggressive, and sometimes go crazy. Four dear friends, with Phil’s guidance, helped to build a constellation that included “crazy,” “wholeness with the full range of emotions,” my great-grandmother Maybel, and the protector, who began as a prickly wall between “crazy” and “full range of emotions” but wound up circling the three women (who reconciled and supported one another) as a protector of all three, as creativity, as a liaison with the outside world.
I felt profound emotional and physical release as I watched the healing these characters were able to undergo. My great-grandmother’s presence and support restored the connections, the strength, the power of my female line.
I realized that crazy is a form of self-protection that happens when the sensitive have no voice or tools for how to express all the madness happening all around us. I realized also that, by not being able to fully accept the aspect of me that went mad as a young woman, I’ve not been able to fully love myself, and so in turn, my daughter. Whatever lies within us, unowned, we are likely to project onto our own children. That’s where the scapegoating begins.
I am grateful to this deep work, to those friends willing to represent aspects of me and my family, and to Phil Cerdorian for helping me heal in deep ways that wouldn’t have been accessible any other way.
I even got to “meet” my great-grandmother Maybel!